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rogueslayer452Challenge #3: In your own space, talk about a fannish opinion you hold that has changed over time. [...] Despite society's insistence otherwise, the beliefs and opinions that we hold about things change over time. We thought it was important that we reflect that (and perhaps laugh at our previously ill-considered opinions) with this challenge.
I've had to really sit with this one, because I have loads of these kinds of changes with my thoughts and opinions regarding fandom in various ways. It was a matter of figuring out which ones I want to talk about, specifically the ones that I felt are the most significant to my overall fandom experience, since individual fandom thoughts are constantly changing.
Being more mindful when talking about something I don't like. I have definitely gone on rants in the past, either in my own posts or commenting on someone else's journal or communities when talking about something, and while having criticism and airing out personal gripes about a piece of media I have gone overboard at times without taking into consideration that someone out there might actually like the thing that I didn't. Having been on the other side of this, loving something that so many vocally dislike (and even been made fun of for liking it), it's not a good feeling. Even if I do have strong feelings about something there is a fine line between constructive criticism and hate or just straight up bashing, and while I don't think I've ever said something nasty to someone directly for something they liked that I didn't what I might have written may have come across that way, which knowing how I was before I was quite passionate in my opinions. I am still passionate, however I've been trying to convey a more constructive way of giving my thoughts. It's been a conscious effort, and one that has been helping me over the years to combat a lot of the judgmental nature of the online community in general.
It's basically the "this piece of media wasn't for me, and that's okay" approach, along with "there is a time and a place" for expressing my thoughts on something. And this goes for anything from canons to characters and pairings.
This kind of extends to.....
Is it the female character, or the writing of the female character? This one is a bit harder to admit, but while I have an endless love for women in fiction there are ones that I have been heavily critical of or just outright hate, not just in the past but in the present, too, and yes unfortunately sometimes it was over a particular pairing I preferred (usually m/m). I've had to do a lot of self-reflecting with this because over the years the subject of internalized misogyny has been brought up in fannish spaces and it's something I had to acknowledge and come to terms with my own. While I knew that my hate for these characters was irrational it was still something I needed to try to step back and examine it from a different perspective on why I was feeling this way. Is it the female character, or was it the writing of the character that I had issues with? Was it the acting that was rubbing me the wrong way? Are we meant to not like this character in this particular moment, and if so why? Is it because the character is acting in such a way that intentionally is causing conflict for the narrative? It's these kinds of questions that has really helped me redirect my frustrations in a better and more constructive manner.
Obviously I don't have to like every single female character I come across, and a lot of times you don't have to have a reason why beyond a "just because", but there are times when I do need to stop and take a step back to assess whether or not that is true.
I've had to really sit with this one, because I have loads of these kinds of changes with my thoughts and opinions regarding fandom in various ways. It was a matter of figuring out which ones I want to talk about, specifically the ones that I felt are the most significant to my overall fandom experience, since individual fandom thoughts are constantly changing.
Being more mindful when talking about something I don't like. I have definitely gone on rants in the past, either in my own posts or commenting on someone else's journal or communities when talking about something, and while having criticism and airing out personal gripes about a piece of media I have gone overboard at times without taking into consideration that someone out there might actually like the thing that I didn't. Having been on the other side of this, loving something that so many vocally dislike (and even been made fun of for liking it), it's not a good feeling. Even if I do have strong feelings about something there is a fine line between constructive criticism and hate or just straight up bashing, and while I don't think I've ever said something nasty to someone directly for something they liked that I didn't what I might have written may have come across that way, which knowing how I was before I was quite passionate in my opinions. I am still passionate, however I've been trying to convey a more constructive way of giving my thoughts. It's been a conscious effort, and one that has been helping me over the years to combat a lot of the judgmental nature of the online community in general.
It's basically the "this piece of media wasn't for me, and that's okay" approach, along with "there is a time and a place" for expressing my thoughts on something. And this goes for anything from canons to characters and pairings.
This kind of extends to.....
Is it the female character, or the writing of the female character? This one is a bit harder to admit, but while I have an endless love for women in fiction there are ones that I have been heavily critical of or just outright hate, not just in the past but in the present, too, and yes unfortunately sometimes it was over a particular pairing I preferred (usually m/m). I've had to do a lot of self-reflecting with this because over the years the subject of internalized misogyny has been brought up in fannish spaces and it's something I had to acknowledge and come to terms with my own. While I knew that my hate for these characters was irrational it was still something I needed to try to step back and examine it from a different perspective on why I was feeling this way. Is it the female character, or was it the writing of the character that I had issues with? Was it the acting that was rubbing me the wrong way? Are we meant to not like this character in this particular moment, and if so why? Is it because the character is acting in such a way that intentionally is causing conflict for the narrative? It's these kinds of questions that has really helped me redirect my frustrations in a better and more constructive manner.
Obviously I don't have to like every single female character I come across, and a lot of times you don't have to have a reason why beyond a "just because", but there are times when I do need to stop and take a step back to assess whether or not that is true.
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Date: 2025-01-30 09:39 am (UTC)