It's about respect.

[rogueslayer452]

It's so interesting to me seeing people who don't understand the concept of nonbinary deciding that just because they don't get it, it means that they can be not only completely rude but also discredit and invalidate anyone who identifies as such, along with other dismissive and ignorant attitudes all because it challenges their limited worldview that they don't want to change.

In elementary school, when we were learning about pronouns during English lessons (in the context of writing and language), it was taught that you used they/them when you either don't know a person's gender or are trying to not reveal someone's gender. This was something that I learned and used quite often ever since, both in writing and when speaking. So when learning more about gender identity, it makes perfect sense to me that someone who doesn't want to identity as of either gender binaries would prefer to use they/them, since I had a pretty good understanding of how it was used in language and, even though that wasn't what we were learning it for, it was just a natural progression of me understanding it being used for gender identity. If you can use they/them in context of not knowing someone's identity or wanting to keep someone anonymous, it shouldn't be hard to continue using those pronouns once you learn that that's how they want to be addressed as.

So please, be respectful of people's gender identities, or any other personal identity they may have.

Comments

[rogueslayer452.livejournal.com]

What really gets to me, is when the negativity and hostility is tried disguised as care for trans people, often towards trans-children

It's really unnerving how people can be that cruel especially if they're pretending to be caring and doing it "for their own good" when in actuality they're just practicing further intolerance and hatred. The fake niceness of it all, the whole, "we're doing this to protect you" when really it's just so they don't have to deal with anything that they cannot understand and won't bother to.

[verdande-mi.livejournal.com]

Yes, and who knows more about being trans than trans-people! It’s so belittling and a way to talk people down by pushing them to the side-line of their own story and life. I am glad more trans people are making their voices heard. I listened to a very interesting talk yesterday, with different representatives of trans-rights groups in the Nordic countries (as part of World Pride in Copenhagen) and that was highlighted as something that gave hope, their own community and their voices.